“Oh but there’s no feelings involved”

Let’s talk about intimacy, it shouldn’t be so taboo.

What if it was that simple?  What if you could just get pleasure and not have something created? Once all jokes are aside and you start talking about better topics like humanity and its essence, the universe and the hidden things, true friendships and influences, you realize that some things should be kept sacred. They should be valued. Carnal knowledge, for example, was created for many purposes, good purposes. The creator offered male and female the power to participate in the art of creation, to join and procreate (genesis 1:28). But no part of the universe exists without a dark side, not even you. While the good is working for, the wicked is working against. Everything that was handled to man is a weapon, he gets to choose how to use it. Intelligence for example, can be used to inform, comfort and uplift. Or you can use it to manipulate, hurt or glorify yourself. There are two sides to everything, but you become like the one you use more often. It’s pretty clear how the dark energies influencing this world pervertized intimacy. They have used it for all the wrong and immoral reasons. Knowing all of this, it doesn’t feel so good to hear a friend say “I’d hit that” (millennial way of expressing sexual attraction towards someone)

“Oh but there’s no feelings involved”

It would be better to just have feelings involved, you know? It’s deeper than that. We’re deeper than that. The human being is tripartite, in other words, we are made into three parts. Spirit(mind), body and soul. When you join someone and you sleep with them, you create a connection with their soul. What you do below, affects or has connections above. If you know you don’t see a future with someone, why would you create an unnecessary tie with them? Sex is more than just pleasure. That’s why God intended to have you share it with someone you love and whose heart belongs to you. My guy friends used to tell me it’s the girl’s downfall to sleep with a guy, when this is all the guy wants. But little did they know, it’s theirs too.

How? How is it a guy’s downfall?

When you mate, you give. When a guy has multiple sexfriends, it affects his spiritual state and even his journey and purpose. Every family has a dark spirit, it’s just that some decide to truly serve God and because of that, this spirit can use no power against them. But when a girl is sexy, hot or pretty without God as a higher power, she is exposed to the dark energies that’s been in her family (past or new generation). So when a guy sleeps with her, she shares her demons, dark schemes (even though she has good intentions) with the guy she sleeps with. So that guy is also exposed to the fallen angel. Guys can have demons too but I’m focused on girls today because you will more likely hear a guy say there’s no feelings while thinking it’s fun. But it would be better to just have feelings.

You may not love her, thinking you’re a true player, but you can become weak under what’s inside of her

So don’t go ahead thinking “I cheat but I love my girl” or “I’m single but I hit every now and then” because the impact of the spirit is permanent whether you are aware of it or not. The people you link with can help you walk into your purpose or they can cause delays in the things you were supposed to live. When they wanted to defeat samson (an inconvincible man with unique gift of strength in his hair). They sent him a woman, but because he was not paying attention and was blinded by his infatuation, she cut his hair and so he became weak. So someone can be sent in your life in a beautiful package but the spirit causing them to meet you has a specific plan and reason to send this person. Your essence, what you share with someone during intimacy, possess some essential things to your destiny. A lot of girls and guys have lost a blessing due to infatuation. Many have been led astray because during intercourse, the spirit operates and it causes setbacks in a person’s life. The demons in your sexual partner’s life can remain in you because you are exposed to its powers during intercourse. What’s sad is that, you don’t even know that it is truly Patricia you are sleeping with, you don’t even know if you are staring into her. Because her soul may leave for awhile and the demon starts sleeping with you. And due to this specific intercourse a plan/plot is accomplished. Don’t get sold, be careful out there.

People that are spiritually safe share grace during intercourse, but those who are not share spirits. So don’t even get lost into Jean’s eyes, his six packs are not worth it if it’s all he has, if he’s using it to attract and not honoring his journey as a person. As a woman, you hold the power to many things and you are mother, but you can’t possibly be spiritually safe if you sleep with anybody or if you think the proof of love is intercourse. It affects your existence.

I’m sure God created it to be enjoyed with someone you love, it was not meant for dares, or to show off, or because of temporary desires. In conclusion, I hope Laura doesn’t give her body away simply because a guy is cute or Tom doesn’t pursue a lady because she’s sexy, cause spiritual ties are forever. It’s never too late to break them though, but that should be a personal prayer with God, asking Him to break those unnecessary spiritual connections, to keep you away and of course you should try to not expose yourself to them again. 

07-28-19

Are you sure you’re the owner?

It’s trending. My neighbor already has one, so I have to do my best to have it. I will sacrifice my health if I have to. Because I should have it and update my social platforms. Oh,  but do you really have it? I think it’s the other way around. It has you! You deserve it because you kept your dignity and took the right steps to have it, but once all your energy and strength is poured out into that thing alone, is it gonna rescue you? Or what if your body gets weak and you have to be hospitalized, isn’t someone else going to enjoy it? You give it so much of your time that your loved ones can’t see you, sometimes they can’t even touch it, because you refuse to share it. It’s true that if you take care of something it will last, but if you are so scared to break/lose it that you become paranoid, your property owns you, if I may say it. You probably don’t own your things, but they own you if they cause you to lose character. It’s not just money, it’s also concerning that new phone, trending outfit, car and many more. It’s true, you should enjoy your life but things are not meant to be loved, people are. Things are meant to be shared and used. So make sure you own things and they don’t own you. Because you may lose your time, loved ones and even yourself. 

 

WHAT ARE YOU FEEDING YOUR SOUL???

 

Health. It comes in many ways right? We all heard about precautions we should take to keep our bodies healthy, we heard about what to eat, what time to eat it and how often we should eat it. But what about our minds, our true selves? Our physical bodies do not represent us. The smallest influence can create a thought, and this thought can become a behavior. The conversations you have, the people you keep in your circle, the celebrity you admire and imitate, the words you speak and the music you listen to are all things that can shape you. They can build or break you, it’s up to you. Because anything you entertain is an energy you invite into your life. If you start listening to a song that upgrades insecurities, once you believe what it says or you entertain it. It will start to influence your mind, you will start thinking and behaving that way so it won’t take long until you lose any self esteem you had. The body follows the mind so make sure you learn good things so you don’t be led astray. You should also be careful about what you let entertain your eyes or what you call eye candy. Psalm 101:3 encourages us to keep our eyes away from vile things. Vanity has enough power to make your brain believe, desire or even pursue something spiritually poisonous. If your desire causes neglect in your spiritual life, it’s poisonous, if it bring others down instead of lifting them up, it’s poisonous, If it can cause you to lose your soul, it’s poisonous (mark 8:36). I think it’s safe to always watch out, to constantly pay attention to your progress, not in tangible things. But your progress as a human being, your emotional growth. Always keep an eye on how the people around you make you feel and how your life is with them. If you don’t pay attention you won’t know, and it might be too late when you decide to do so, keep your eyes open (matthew 6:22).

 

THINGS YOUR BIG SISTER PROBABLY NEVER TOLD YOU

But if you know, you know.

Siblings are one of the greatest gifts God can give someone, you have a role model, a friend and a therapist all at once. It’s very common to see big sisters play a big role in the lives of their younger siblings, but not all of them like to make this known. If you know, you know. If you pay attention you will be able to relate to one or more of these things your big sister never told you. She probably never will..

1. You may be “free” because of her

Strict or semi strict parents, ugh can’t live with them but can’t live without them right? Not every parent are cool with what us millenials do sometimes. But if you notice that your parent is less severe on a specific thing, it’s because your hero of a big sister has already crossed the path. And since they know your parents very well, they can calm them down. They can play the role of an intermediate and tell the parents you’re okay. So as age comes and the years go by, your strict parents have other priorities.

2.She gave you the last piece she had

Last piece of pizza, time, energy, effort. She gave it all and did not even look back. Because you are a priority, she would rather see you happy but she’ll pretend she’s okay every time. Nothing in this world is free, if you have a sibling sharing these things with you do not waste none. And if you can’t return their big favors, at least be useful to yourself. That way, you will make it easier for her and when the time comes, you may return the favor.

3. She’s been there

Girls have a better time with their sisters and whenever you go through that young woman phase you know you have someone you can talk to. Someone who saw the years before you did and saw your days come by, value that.

4.She wants the best for you

Since she plays the role of a mother sometimes, she knows and wants what’s best for you. She has your best interest in mind and is willing to prove it so you may be happy.

5. She is your best friend

I mean, she shouldn’t have to tell you that. A good sister is a blessing and a guide. People may come and go with different intents, good or bad. But a good sister is a permanent, God-given friend.

Conclusion: Having a good sister in such a cold world feels like winning the jackpot. Hold on to that. And whether or not you can return their sacrifices, pray for them. Prayer is the greatest gift you can give to someone because you give their unknown situations to God. If you spot one or two of these clues you are highly blessed. Share this blog with your siblings if you agree!

THINGS I WOULD TELL MY YOUNGER SELF

Do you know those days when you look back only to see how far you’ve come? How far you’ve come emotionally, mentally and spiritually. To make things short, you want to see how far you’ve come as a person. But at times, I can’t help thinking there are some things I could’ve done better. Of course we only learn throughout the years and experiences. But sometimes, I just wish I could go back in time. Here are some of the things I would tell my younger self if I could.

1.Don’t be so obsessed with seeking advice, you may lose your own voice.

It’s always nice to receive guidance from time to time you know, but sometimes others will give you an image, a painted reality of theirs. They will only tell you from their perspective, their personal view. How about you take a chance and see for yourself? You may find out you don’t even like the things you think you like, the results will be filled with unforgettable experiences. And who told you didn’t have the answers anyways?

2.Quit letting people live through you

It’s nice that someone cares. But they can’t decide each and every one of your steps, you’re the only one who can stop this, it’s your path. There is a price to every thing in life. Every good thing take time and comes with a price that is hard to pay. You will suffer either way, just choose to react the right way and since you already like to learn life lessons, leave every approval and validation behind.

3.Anxiety is lying again

Seriously? When are you finally going to realize this? I mean.. you will end up doing it but you could save yourself some time. Anxiety is lying again and it always will until you stop allowing it. Stop believing what it tells you and give things an opportunity to speak their truth.

4.Do not fear

You serve a big God who can do big things, he’s been loyal from the beginning of time and he will remain the same forevermore.

5.Over analyzing? Oh please, not again!!!

Dear younger self, I can’t really tell you how to stop doing this one because I’m still doing it myself, I haven’t found the exit yet. But I’m doing much better now. Listen to my tips, they work: Don’t think too much before you decide to do something,  you may end up not doing it. Quit analyzing. Yes, thinking before acting is right,, the only thing is you may end up not doing things if you think too much about them. If you are worried about the fact that you can make the wrong decisions or that things will turn out against you, you will not find out by over analyzing. Have the right balance between “you only live once” and “the choices you make now will affect you later”. Sometimes, things are much better than you think they are, so if you never experience, you will never know. Because once again, others will only give you their painted realities.

Conclusion:

You are given a life full of challenges and I’m proud to see how you surpassed them all. But don’t forget that you are also abundantly blessed and never underestimate any of your blessings, keep going and you will see. You will see down the line how nothing was worth worrying about and how you were more than enough. Stay in God’s presence, make your loved ones proud and embrace your truth.

THINGS I WOULD TELL MY YOUNGER SELF

Do you know those days when you look back only to see how far you’ve come? How far you’ve come emotionally, mentally and spiritually. To make things short, you want to see how far you’ve come as a person. But at times, I can’t help thinking there are some things I could’ve done better. Of course we only learn throughout the years and experiences. But sometimes, I just wish I could go back in time. Here are some of the things I would tell my younger self if I could.

1.Don’t be so obsessed with seeking advice, you may lose your own voice.

It’s always nice to receive guidance from time to time you know, but sometimes others will give you an image, a painted reality of theirs. They will only tell you from their perspective, their personal view. How about you take a chance and see for yourself? You may find out you don’t even like the things you think you like, the results will be filled with unforgettable experiences. And who told you didn’t have the answers anyways?

2.Quit letting people live through you

It’s nice that someone cares. But they can’t decide each and every one of your steps, you’re the only one who can stop this, it’s your path. There is a price to every thing in life. Every good thing take time and comes with a price that is hard to pay. You will suffer either way, just choose to react the right way and since you already like to learn life lessons, leave every approval and validation behind.

3.Anxiety is lying again

Seriously? When are you finally going to realize this? I mean.. you will end up doing it but you could save yourself some time. Anxiety is lying again and it always will until you stop allowing it. Stop believing what it tells you and give things an opportunity to speak their truth.

4.Do not fear

You serve a big God who can do big things, he’s been loyal from the beginning of time and he will remain the same forevermore.

5.Over analyzing? Oh please, not again!!!

Dear younger self, I can’t really tell you how to stop doing this one because I’m still doing it myself, I haven’t found the exit yet. But I’m doing much better now. Listen to my tips, they work: Don’t think too much before you decide to do something,  you may end up not doing it. Quit analyzing. Yes, thinking before acting is right,, the only thing is you may end up not doing things if you think too much about them. If you are worried about the fact that you can make the wrong decisions or that things will turn out against you, you will not find out by over analyzing. Have the right balance between “you only live once” and “the choices you make now will affect you later”. Sometimes, things are much better than you think they are, so if you never experience, you will never know. Because once again, others will only give you their painted realities.

Conclusion:

You are given a life full of challenges and I’m proud to see how you surpassed them all. But don’t forget that you are also abundantly blessed and never underestimate any of your blessings, keep going and you will see. You will see down the line how nothing was worth worrying about and how you were more than enough. Stay in God’s presence, make your loved ones proud and embrace your truth.

Different things and occasions God uses to talk to us

A lot of people tend to expect a loud voice coming from the clouds when they think of how God speaks. Although he could, he doesn’t necessarily communicate that way, in fact, God’s voice and presence is not even intimidating (See 1 kings 19:11-13).

The Holy Spirit is among the servants of God, and He’s there to counsel, guide and encourage them to stay in God’s presence. He is pure, therefore, he should be respected. Believers are advised to not practice things that will make him (holy spirit) go away. If you sin against yourself or someone else you will be forgiven. But you will not be forgiven if you offend the holy spirit of God. When Jesus left, he promised to leave the spirit with us to guide us. And with his help, God uses a lot of things and occasions to communicate with people. Below are some of the signs that God is trying to tell you something.

IN OUR HEARTS:

God is the only one who can see our hearts, which is why it’s better to pray in our hearts for our most special needs. Because other people and spirits can hear your voice and fallen angels love to hear our desires, because it’s a way to our hearts and that makes it easier for them to be successful in their many attempts to separate you from God, they don’t care about your money. So even after you pray with a group of people, you may request your personal needs to him in your heart. Matthew 6:4 encourages you to pray in secret and that God will reward you since he sees what is done in secret. Just as you can use your heart to talk to God, he can use it to talk to you as well, a lot of times,  when you feel in your heart that you are drawn to something, it may be God’s will for you. But the heart can be deceitful as well, not all desires are good. That’s why it’s better to ask God for discernment.

HIS WORD:

Have you ever been in a situation when all you could think of is give up? But then you may see a scripture that gives you strength. A lot of times,  God will use his word to communicate and you should pay attention to repeated bible verses: they may randomly come up in a situation, you may hear them during a sermon, a conversation with friends,  you may see them on a social media post as well. Pay attention to them because nothing happens by accident, even the fact that you are reading this blog.

WISE COUNSEL:

No matter what path you choose to serve God, you need to remain in his word and obey him. A lot of times, God will use wise counsel from any of the following to warn you or take you to something: Your spiritual guide, a parent,a sibling, an advisor, a friend, a family member. We shouldn’t limit God’s ways of speaking and there is nothing he can’t use to speak. If you have a wise figure in your life and they randomly start talking to you about something, it may be God talking through them. When you see this, use your privacy (your heart) to ask Him if it is his will.

PROPHETIC DREAMS

If you’re like me, you don’t get impressed by dreams or pay too much attention to them, you may even forget them at times. Although that doesn’t necessarily mean you underestimate them, you simply don’t prioritize them over other spiritual inspirations. But if you or someone tells you a dream that involves an important area of your life, it might be God talking to you. God has always used dreams to communicate to his servants (matthew 2:13). In my personal experience, when I or someone else would have a dream,  I wouldn’t jump into conclusions right away, I would Go and ask God if it’s from him, what it means and if he could clarify it for me. It is also important to ask God to put things in your level of comprehension when you ask him to confirm or show you something, he will 🙂

OTHERS:

This one is a little similar to wise counsel, but it’s quite different. Don’t think that because someone is not a wise person God can’t use them to speak. God can use a random stranger, a child, a close friend or anyone around you to talk to you, but since others are not always right, seek God’s will.

A SONG:

Have you ever felt a song was written for you? Ever been melancholy and hear a song that comforts you? What about this random, uninvited song in a playlist? I like to let them in, when a song comes to me by accident, I hear the message behind it, I don’t push it away. God can also use a song to talk to you, if you feel that you should listen to a song, do it. He might use it to answer a prayer or relieve your stress. It could also be the song of the current season of your life or your victory song. Embrace it.

CIRCUMSTANCES:

God will also use hard times to talk to you and teach you a lesson that will make you grow, he may want to raise your rank in the spirit. Whenever you don’t have a choice but trust God, he might be trying to teach you to be more patient or he might be increasing your faith. Either way, listen to Him.

God is amazing and he let us know what we need to know. If you’ve experienced one or more of these clues, I suggest you to ask God his will for you. A prayer doesn’t have to be long, only ask Him what his will is and be open to receive answers. Since you can pray in your heart, it doesn’t always have to be at a specific place, you can send him a message (in your heart) right now and ask him…. Have a great journey 🙂

How reliable are you ?(Just for fun)

Hey there! It’s sunday and we have another blogpost, another topic. But today the conversation you’ll have with me is a little different, I created a short quiz that will help you determine how reliable you are, notice that it says “Just for fun” in the title, so don’t take anything too personal. I just thought the blog needed a little humor this week. Now the questions are actually good enough to determine whether or not you are reliable, but because people have different routines and everyone knows what they can accept in their interactions, the right answers to whether or not someone is reliable could differ. Once again this is for entertainment. So here’s how you do it: Each question will have 4 answers. there is no right or wrong answer just choose the one that matches your personality (Beware that clicking an option won’t record your answer because this quiz is not attached to a link so it would be better if you could get a piece of paper or just remember your choices.) Each answer will have a score (It doesn’t really matter, just choose your answer). Choosing an answer simply because it has a bigger score only means that you are missing out or that you don’t get the humor. Just be honest with yourself and have some fun. After you have completed the quiz, after you memorized or wrote down all the answers, add up your points and scroll down to see what your score says. Have fun!

Is it hard for you to say no?

A. Yes, very hard. I don’t want to let others down, so I say yes to everything (3 pts)

B. No it’s not, I only say yes if I know I will do it. I don’t wanna make promises I can’t keep (6pts)

C. It’s not hard because others should understand that we have different routines,(2pts)

D. Somewhat hard, I do what I can (5pts)

How often do you finish what you start?

A. I always finish what I start, I’m pretty consistent (6 pts)

B. I usually start well and get bored/tired/distracted (2pts)

C. Never, that’s why I rely on others for important tasks (3pts)

D. My problems affect me in this type of area, and due to stress, I quit before I finish (5pts)

How often do you cancel plans?

A. It depends on the person I had plans with (2pts)

B. I only cancel plans if I have an emergency or a bigger plan(5pts)

C. Always, I usually get entertained with the new plan that comes up (3pts)

D.I don’t cancel plans because I keep my word (6pts)

If you had to spend the day with your significant other, then one of your friends calls you because they need your help ASAP, what do you do?

 

A. Refer my friend to 911 (2pts)

B. Apologize to my significant other and leave as soon as I can, we can always spend time but my friend may get in trouble (6pts)

C. I’d probably miss the call because I’m lost when I’m with my significant other (3pts)

D. Try to get someone else to do the work because I love my friend but I love to spend quality time with my significant other (5pts)

What would your friend say about you?

A. That I’m always there for them (6pts)

B.That I only care about parties (2pts)

C.That I isolate myself but I still care (3pts)

D. That I’m nice (5pts)

How often do you lie?

A. Hardly, I only tell lies to protect myself (5pts)

B. Often because I’m scared the truth may hurt others (3pts)

C. I try to avoid it as much as I can, truth is always better and it heals itself and lies will be exposed somehow (6pts)

D. I never lie (2pts)

Are you comfortable with being yourself?

A. Barely (5pts)

B. No because I have to fit in (2pts)

C.Yes, I have nothing to hide and since no one is perfect, you either accept me as I am or let me go. (6pts)

D. No, I’m ashamed of myself (3pts)

 

Can you be trusted with kids/animals/vulnerable people?

A.) I’m good with kids and/or vulnerable people, not animals (5pts)

B.)Yes, all three (6pts)

C.) Not really, I have exceptions (3pts)

D.) Not at all (2pts)

 

If you scored between 16-20 pts:

You are not reliable, that’s not your thing. You prefer to prioritize yourself but that doesn’t mean you don’t care for others. You may have faced something that made you think if you prioritize others they will betray you, use you or let you down somehow. Others think you are selfish but that’s not how you see things. You should keep in mind that helping someone has nothing to do with your advantage, what you give, comes back to you. Even if you don’t get it from the person you gave your time to, someone else will give it to you. And don’t worry about users, just keep doing you and the energy you pour out will come back to you 🙂 Remember God loves a cheerful giver that expects nothing in return. 2 corinthians 9:7

If you scored between 21-30pts

You try your best, you do have a kind heart and want to help others but you don’t do much, it may be because you are busy or simply because somethings are convenient to you and some are not. You help others when you can and you expect them to appreciate your effort. Which is good, but keep in mind that giving extra help is a very positive action and staying 5 more minutes will make others open up to you.

If you scored between 31-40

You are a very helpful person. Others can count on you for secrets, to take care of something for them when they don’t have time, and many more. You don’t let the behavior of others determine your actions and you are always ready to help. The only thing is, sometimes you probably don’t deal with energies you don’t want to deal with.

If you scored between 41-48

You are very reliable, you love helping/serving and being there for others and you expect nothing in return, because you know that giving alone is the reward. You don’t do things for the eyes of the public, you don’t do things to get respect or admiration from others. You simply enjoy giving and get things done because you think that’s how it should be, although you don’t owe nothing to a lot of people, you still help because that’s who you are. Keep it up, we all need more people like you.

What’s your score? I’m curious 😀

Remember this is just for fun

Don’t forget to share this with a friend

 

3 common myths about agape

God’s love

3 common myths about agape love

Love is one of the strongest forces in nature, although a lot of people confuse it with attachment and other things, there are different kind of loves for different kind of connections. Agape  is the purest form of love, however, there are some myths about it that a lot of people tend to believe. Here’s a list of myths about agape love:

3. It’s only for christians

We may know that it is the love God has for man, but God’s love benefits both believers and unbelievers because the sun rises for both, but agape  is a universal love. Some call it charity, it doesn’t belong to a specific race or religion neither. (John 3: 16)

2. It’s romantic

To be specific, agape is true love. Agape can be found in any connection; spouses, children & parents, friends and many more. Agape is when the level of understanding and commitment is completed. Two friends may enjoy each other’s company, but when their bond is perfected it’s called agape. Siblings can love each other because they are siblings and are devoted to blood, but once their love is completed it’s called agape, it gets unconditional and pure. This kind of love doesn’t belong to a specific kind of relation. Agape is the highest form of love. It is the love that completes the connections and it doesn’t have a limit. Without it, all other kinds of connections are simple and natural. In other words, agape love goes beyond nature. All siblings have some type of  love for each other, it’s natural. When you grow up with someone and they share a home, it’s easy to love them. But once you start truly loving that person, not only because they are related, when you love their persona without conditions and are committed to their well being, it’s called agape. The same thing applies for spouses and other family members.

1. It demands constant togetherness

Agape may be a passionate kind of love, but it’s not controlling. Unlike eros, agape is peaceful and sane. Allowing the other to be comfortable while respecting them, it doesn’t inspire obsession. Thinking of agape, it doesn’t come with the image of cupid or being madly in love. It’s loving, kind, patient and gentle.

Also, agape often gets confused with ludus

Some people think they love when they are just in love. When it comes to romantic relationships, a lot of people don’t want commitment. They just want someone to meet their needs and desires while being free and not meeting the requirements of a relationship.

Ludus is playful, fun, teasing and flirting. Ludus tend to produce: friends with benefits, sexual attraction with no commitment or true love involved (fetish) and secret affairs…

What exactly is agape?

Agape is God’s gift to nature and all that it is. It’s an opportunity to see things in a better way, to accept and cherish. This kind of love doesn’t belong to a specific group or type of commitment. It’s unconditional and inspiring. If agape was tangible, it would be a colander in my opinion. Because it is what purifies every relationships. Separating what we need from what we don’t; keeping love, support , trust and respect. Releasing selfish ambitions, control, envy and disrespect. I could also compare it to a column, because it’s strong. Agape is for everyone i.e., you can love a parent with agape love. Not just a lover. Agape is what inspires us to prioritize the needs of others. Have you ever experienced it?

Happy easter xoxo 🙂

SOME OF THE THINGS THAT SEPARATE YOUR CONFIDANT FROM EVERYBODY ELSE

The type of friends

Being/having a confidant is not just about making the other person feel good, it’s not about being in their presence 24/7, it’s how you care for them… A confidant is devoted to your friendship and values loyalty. It’s someone who will always be by your side and want nothing but what is truly good for you. So what exactly makes a confidant, well.. a confidant?

They are always there: Due to different kind of lifestyle, a true friend may not always be there physically, but they will find a way to show they care. Because people make time for what matters to them, in fact, distance doesn’t really separate people. It’s true.. People are busy, they are trying to make things happen for them. They are chasing a dream, spending sleepless nights studying but it’s a question of priority, so they will show moral support and let you know they care somehow. Contrary to comrades, your friendship with your confidant is not built on what the two of you are against. It’s built on loyalty and care. A confidant can be a sibling, spouse, parent and many more.

You are not misunderstood: You can open up to them without being afraid of judgement, they may even have the right advices all the time. Whether you are right or wrong, they will acknowledge it but will not use any of your wrongs against you, you can open up to them and they will understand you while giving you the freedom to be comfortable in your own skin. If you happen to come across one or two of these type of friends, you are blessed.

It’s not always about pleasure: Not only can you have a good time with them, but they can also tell you when you’re wrong, they believe in you and they encourage you to do things that can help you achieve your goals.

Their actions show that they have your best interest in mind: No matter what happens, a confidant is always for you. They will support you and will never put you in a position where you feel less than what you are.


Circumstances don’t define your bond:

A circumstance does not cause someone to leave you, if that happens, they were never with you in the first place. Conflict is a normal thing in any kind of interaction, a true friendship won’t break because of conflict. It’s not like they lack patience, endurance or strength to ameliorate something for your friendship, the only thing they lack is the will, the will to do so.

A friend will come see you within the first days of an incident: What about a confidant? They will stay, it’s not like your friends won’t visit if you’re at the hospital, but your confidant will try their best to stay. Also, try to spot who’s doing it for the image and the one who does it genuinely. Some people will come visit just so they don’t look bad as a friend, just so other people don’t wonder why they didn’t come.

After all, having a large circle of friends doesn’t add quality to your friendships. If you happen to have one or two good friends you should be happy because some people have only experienced users, liars, hypocrites and many other toxic friendships. I’m not saying having a group of friends is bad, in fact, some people are lucky enough to find a soul tribe. But it’s so rare and hard to spot, that having one true friend is enough in most situations. Having a good friend is like having a counselor, sibling and teacher all at once. What about you? Who’s the David to your Jonathan?

 

 

 

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